Long or Short Hair After We Turn 30?

Hello world!

It’s Monday today and a new week is starting. 

Yesterday we had a very interesting conversation at work in Camden with my colleagues. What length should your hair be after reaching 30?

This question crossed my mind when I was with Adka in Brent Cross last week for coffee. She’s 25, but decided to cut her hair into a short bob with a side- sweeping fringe.

‘It feels a bit silly to have such a long hair at my age’, she said, resolutely throwing back her long, black mane. Right now, her hair reaches down to her waist almost, making her very beautiful and regal.

‘Also Tony (her boyfriend) doesn’t think I should have a long hair when we have a baby’. (They are trying for a baby).

As I sat opposite her with my own long hair that should have been cut months ago, I realised she had a point.

When I look at the pictures of myself at 25, pushing a stroller with a baby in it, I also had a short bob. Well, mid-length, down to my shoulders. Not only that, but it was bright red. Did it suit me? No. I looked 31 then, whereas now I think my long hair gives me a softer, younger look.

It’s like once we hit 25, we feel we should act like we’re 45. True, I will not have flowing locks after 40; but until then, what’s the harm in having a long hair?

Plus I can tell you this for a fact: Short hair is too much work!!

When I did cut my hair following the birth of my son, assuming people expecting me to sport a grown-up look to go with motherhood, I didn't count on my hair curling in different directions. I either spent ages trying to straighten them out or went out looking stupid. Plus I could hardly find the time with a screaming baby demanding all my attention.

Long hair is a bliss. You get up in the morning, brush it and you're ready to go.

My own desire to keep my hair long comes from a pure fear of losing it. And this fear comes from the time when I had cancer 3 years ago. (I’ll tell you about it in another blog).

When I was told the dreaded word ’Cancer’, all I could think about was losing my hair. Not my life, but my hair.

At the time, I was belly dancing and my hair was an extremely important accessory. It was long and always styled into soft curls. I was crying when I thought of chemotherapy and going bold. It’s very strange, what sort of irrational thoughts you have when you go into a shock.

Luckily, a chemo wasn’t needed and I didn’t lose my hair. But since then, I’ve kept them long. I have a trim every few months, but it’s very comforting to touch and smell them when I want to (not in a weird way). They are like my guard. Even now, as I sit and write this, they are freshly washed and piled up on top of my head to give me ’soft curls, cascading-down-my-back’ look. I love it!

When we talked about it in Camden yesterday, there were different answers to this. Kikio, my colleague from China, cut her hair into a short mess- yes, there’s no other word for it- when she turned 30 last year. I’ll never forget the moment she came to work that morning.  The hair that had once been black, long and flowing was now sticking up in every direction, and pink. We were all speechless. Curtis, the guy who sells shirts, asked her:

‘Did you go to the cemetery and see the ghost?’

When she replied that she didn’t, but paid £150 for that invention, he said she should have gone to the cemetery for the same effect, and free of charge. Well, we couldn’t help but agree with him, even though we didn’t say it out loud. 

‘Yes, you should cut your hair short after 30, otherwise you look stupid’, she said, bustling about with her short, messy pink hair with lots of clips and accessories to keep the do together. She resembled a cleaning lady, all she needed was a mop. Was I going to run to the nearest hairdress’s hearing that?

No!

What do you think? A short or a long hair after 30? 

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